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Revenge on Your Ex: Is She Really Worth It?

So, she respected you so little that she just dumped you out of her life. You're angry. Should you spread a nasty rumor, key her car, kidnap her favorite childhood stuffed animal. or is something better on the horizon.

It's the big question: is there any satisfaction to be found in hurting the person that hurt you?

I think there is no satisfaction in getting revenge on your ex-girlfriend at all. If it is satisfying, it will be a very fleeting and short-term sort of satisfaction. Rather than looking for revenge ideas, I would try to eliminate your ex as much as you can out of your life and move on. Concentrate on getting your life back on track as quickly as possible.

A better you for a better woman.

This is a great time for you to work on yourself and become a better and more attractive person. If there is any way that you can get back with your ex, it won't be by doing something negative or mean to her. It would be by presenting yourself as a person that has got his life back together again.

Meet some new girls and start gaining the confidence to attract different girls into your life. I would also recommend taking your ex-girlfriend off the pedestal she is currently on. It's very easy to sit and reflect on all the good things that you had with her – but there were probably a lot of bad things as well. There are probably a lot of things that your ex-girlfriend was doing that weren't great, and she isn't this perfect figure you have built her up to be.

Stop living in her shadow.

You also need to eliminate any reminders of her. If there is anything in your house that makes you think of her, or if you guys are Facebook friends, get rid of that and delete her. Take away anything that triggers a reminder of your ex to start afresh. Start exercising your newfound freedom: get out there and chat to more women.

A lot of guys might just start talking to other women to throw it in their ex-girlfriend's face as some kind of subtle revenge. How do you know that you've moved on if you're not talking to new women for the right reasons? Trying to make your ex-girlfriend jealous is not a positive way forwards.

Short-term pain, long-term gain.

Initially when you go out and you start chatting to girls, it's pretty normal you won't have yet got over your ex. She still may be in the forefront of your mind, and you may even compare other girls to her. You will probably have a few rebound partners; girls who are just fulfilling the girlfriend-shaped void in your life. There's nothing wrong with this in the short term as it will help you get over your ex.

What you will start to find when you do talk up and meet new girls is that there are other girls out there just as good as your ex – if not better. As soon as you meet one of these girls, your ex will be in the distant past. But, you have to put yourself out there and push yourself to meet new girls to find this out for yourself. Stop contemplating revenge on your ex-girlfriend – get out there and find yourself a wonderful new woman. Girlfriend 2.0 is just around the corner here!

Stop and pay close attention, because your past mistakes have caused a pathway of destruction that goes as far back as your first relationship.

Take the steps to learn exactly where you've gone wrong, and how to guarantee you'll never make the same relationship destroying mistakes again.

Now that you're ready to move on, see who's waiting to appreciate all of the wonderful things you have to offer... even if it's just for tonight!